Candy is everywhere: At the bank, the dry cleaners,
the doctor and even at my local pet store.
Yes, even the pet store has a candy dish by the cash register. Just think of this as another kind of bank lollypop.
Usually we reserve conversations about candy until Halloween, which marks the beginning of the holiday junk-food-eating season. Lately I’ve heard some chatter about candy giveaways, and so, I just couldn’t resist getting this conversation going today.
Don’t fear the bank lollypop.
This is when the Confectioners Association usually calls me! (I’m not joking.) Really, though, candy is not something to fear. It’s not something to over-control either.
Demonizing/over-controlling candy makes it a forbidden fruit. And you know what that means.
On Halloween I usually say, Don’t worry about the candy, it’s only one day a year. It’s every other day when candy is a problem. So I admit, it’s kind of weird for me to say the same thing about everyday candy. What’s more everyday than the bank lollypop?
And by bank lollypop I also mean the candy at the diner checkout, or the crazy old lady in Whole Foods who insists on giving your child a cookie. (Yes that happened to me. What a dilemma: crazy old lady, poison, sudden death? Or, sweet treat?)
The problem with the bank lollypop isn’t the lollypop per se. The problem is that you haven’t planned for it. It’s thrust upon you. And if you gave your kids the bank lollypop every single time your kids were presented with one, things would be out of control.
Out of control. Candy everywhere. Candy everyday.
And you know things would be bad because your kids beg, whine, and plead for that darn lollypop. You gotta stop that, right?
What, your kids don’t have a candy plan? Time to change that. It really will solve everything.
- Bank lollypops are only a problem if your children think they can eat the bank lollypop whenever they get one. If your kids have a candy plan—they can have one candy a day, for instance—problem solved. They can take the bank lollypop and eat it (but nothing else). Or, they can take the bank lollypop and save it for another day. (Hopefully by putting it in their candy drawer. Read this post too.)
- Kids whine, beg, tantrum when there aren’t clear guidelines about when they can and cannot have candy. Sometimes I say yes, sometimes I say no. YOU know why you’re saying yes or no but to kids, the decision-making feels arbitrary. That invites begging and bartering. If you have a plan, kids know they can take the bank lollypop and then decide whether or not can eat it. (See point 1 above.)
Don’t fear the School Lollypop either.
Just figure out how to fold it into your child’s candy plan. Think of this as teaching your kids how to deal with the real food world around them.
~Changing the conversation from nutrition to habits.~